What About LGBTQ+ Sex?
The lack of heteronormative scripts applies to sex, too. According to sex and relationship coach Rachel Rose, “This is the absolute best part about queer sex – it works however the people involved want it to. There’s far [fewer] expectations or examples of what queer sex ‘should’ look like, so the conversations about who’s into what tend to be more built-in. ”
Again, this uncertainty is a good thing. It’s normal not to know exactly what you want sex to look or feel like. In fact, I’ve heard from countless coaching clients that they’re afraid of entering a sexual situation without knowing what to do. But knowing what to do was always an illusion. The skills you need for good sex are communication-based, like active listening and empathy. And as always, trust your gut.